Bring the shit on

I am definitely going through a rough time at work. Len is trying to be critical in a nicer way, but I do feel treated worse than others. He is giving me shit the way he gives the Asian guys all the time. It's just that he doesn't even consider me part of the Asian squad. So I receive shit like an Asian person, but don't get to enjoy the benefits of being Asian. I'm basically nobody to him and I can't deal with that in the long run. I am disappointed in Len whom I considered a greater judge of character. I do think that I am one of the Asian guys, and like any of those guys I would do anything for our boss. We're all here because of Len. We're obviously not here for anyone else, we're all counting on Len to have our backs. We certainly don't enjoy living on the countryside with no good food and no entertainment and no family or friends. Most days are a struggle. I am sad for him, because he takes his own people for granted. Particularly in a foreign country like this he needs all the loyalty he can get. I know that he will go through many rough times on his own, he'll be surprised to learn that his ways and methods clearly won't be working here.

All I want is to feel I belong here. Things are still very much on and getting more serious with Wyatt. In an ideal world we would have met in a different place under different circumstances. Now that we've met in this village in this company, all we can do is keep doing our jobs without getting discovered for as long as possible. Someone will find out eventually and will put both our jobs at risk. I do have something to lose now. I am prepared that people can be cruel sometimes. I'm not gonna let go out of fear.

Nothing to lose

A year ago all that mattered to me was money and a job I didn't hate. That's how I took the job and moved all the way to Bavaria. After a very short time I realized that it wasn't enough. I got paid well, yes. I didn't hate my work, yes. Was I lucky? Very much. Was I happy? Well, I got nothing to lose.

The only thing that kept me going was a boss I believed in. I believed that Len knew what he was doing, Len could teach me the real stuff without even being around much, Len was going to have my back. I believed that he knew I was a loyal member of his squad, because this squad was all I got. Nobody else gave a crap about me.

Times are rough right now, but they will get even rougher. I'm working my ass off day and night, very often it isn't enough. The only person who remotely appears like a mentor to me is Aiden. Aiden's office is in a different building, he is just as busy as the big bosses, he is under the same amount of pressure and he gets a lot of shit from all directions too. But he is trying to keep his humanity.

Not only do I have to build my positive energy up everyday, since I get crushed almost everyday. I am also trying not to lose faith in Len who gives me nothing but negativity everyday. Somehow I manage to find courage and comfort after getting crushed again. Somehow I know that circumstances won't change for the better, no matter how hard I try. I can change the way I work, but I can't change others and the way they treat people. I am here, because I'm not ready to quit my job without a fight.

I guess when you accept a gift, you have to give up something else. In my case it's one boss for one Wyatt or something.

Wyatt is working on a project in my hometown area. Every Friday afternoon he heads back and we get to see each other all weekend. There is something special about Wyatt. He has a lot of qualities that I admire and he looks at me like I'm the only girl in the world. I wish I could still say that I have absolutely nothing to lose. Am I lucky? Very much. Am I happy? Never been happier.

I could get used to this

I don't know if I will ever be able to love again.

I have found this great guy who cares about me, who is serious about me, who wants to make me happy. We have this amazing connection, I am incredibly attracted to him and I admire a lot of things about him. Sounds like a dream and I could totally get used to being this happy.

I guess I am always preparing myself for the worst. I have made many mistakes in the past. All I know is how to heal fast after getting hurt. I have learned to get up and start over. Now imagine being in love for real and having to heal after that. Sounds like a living nightmare. There is no recovering from that.

I want to let my guard down for this guy, I just don't know if I can.

It wasn't just me

Friday 29th Wyatt took me to the carnival. He said whenever we ran into each other at work, it made his entire day. When he dropped me off at 1 AM in the morning, we awkwardly said goodbye. Not exactly what I'd had in mind. I watched him speed down the road and I got mad at myself for wanting to invite him over, but not wanting to come on too strong. At home we texted each other almost simultaneously. "You shouldn't have left in such a rush," I teased. "What do you mean?" he asked. "It means that you could've stayed for a minute," I nervously replied. "Cute. Wish I had known. You could've told me," he typed back. "Thought you could read my mind," I laughed. "Should I come back?" he asked. "How long would you be driving?" "20 minutes." Shit, that sounded like a long drive. "Come back if you feel like it." "Are you kidding? ... I'm on my way right now!!!"

Later he claimed that he drove real slow to make sure that nothing happened to him on his way back. The last few days we've been motorcycling, talking, walking around and driving to different towns in the area to hide from people that knew us. I got to know a very different side of him. The Wyatt that I knew all this time was hard-working, multi-talented, quick-witted, bold, feisty, impulsive and dramatic. He was nothing like the guys I usually went for. Wyatt is all of that, but he is also the most creative, observant, thoughtful, caring and protective person. He tells stories the way they really are and isn't afraid to show vulnerability. I used to think that all there was to it was physical chemistry, I mean the chemistry was indeed mind blowing. Now I know that it was his intense gaze that gave me the chills. He felt it too. It wasn't just me. 

I enjoy having him around, but I am still very much behind in the emotional department. He is serious about the whole thing, while I am still trying to wrap my head around it. I never even pictured us together, although he was hot. I thought we were very different people, he was too young and a country boy. There is also a problem with our work situation, if people find out it will change everything. I haven't mentioned him to anyone, because I need to figure this out on my own. There are just two things that I can be sure of. First, I was wrong about him and he does have a lot of qualities that I am looking for in a guy. Second, I can't stay in the countryside, not even for a great guy. 

Maybe I'm amazed

Tuesday morning I was coincidently in Larry's office, when he sent Mickey and Wyatt on another mission. While Mickey packed his suitcase, Wyatt came looking for me to say goodbye. I didn't feel well, so I went home after lunch. The guys got there after a three-hour drive, finished fast and were supposed to head back the next morning. "Will I see you tomorrow," I wrote. "I sure hope so," Wyatt replied.

Wednesday morning I felt even worse and stayed at home. Mickey texted me that they were driving to a different customer and not returning as planned. By 3 PM they got back to the company. By 4 I got a text from Wyatt that said "Are you home already?" "Yeah, when I heard you weren't coming back, I was so sad and left," I teased him. "Had to work faster, thought you were waiting for me," he said. It was the cutest thing anyone could have said to me. 

Thursday afternoon Wyatt insisted on coming over and cooking me something. Usually I didn't like inviting people to my place. I'd had three colleagues over in almost a year, only one of them stayed longer than a few minutes. I wanted to see Wyatt though. I was nervous, but I decided I didn't care if he saw me wearing glasses and without any make-up on.

So he came over and brought food, chocolate and tea. "During the first two months you basically talked to everyone but me. I thought you were afraid of me or something. At the summer bash I sat down next to you and you walked away," he joked. I looked at him in disbelief. That's how I found out that he'd noticed me from the very beginning. 

When he was about to go home, I was wondering what would happen next. He simply pulled me into his arms - I was amazed how strong his pull was - and hugged me. And I didn't feel like letting go at all.

Blown out of the water

One week after I went back to work, Wyatt also returned from a long business trip. I saw him arrive in one of our cars at lunchtime, as Percy and I were headed to town towards the opposite direction. While running from one building to the other in the afternoon, I saw Wyatt push a cart across the parking lot. His face lit up with surprise and he nervously hugged me back. It was our second hug after he had drunkenly hugged me at the Christmas party. We talked for a minute, then I ran for the door and yelled "I gotta be somewhere right now, talk to you later okay?" At that moment I thought I wouldn't see him again that day. But less than an hour passed and he showed up at my office doorstep. Ever since then he always kept in touch. Once he texted me he was hoping to return from a business trip at normal hours, so I'd still be there.

Sunday evening we went for a ride. He said he usually didn't like curly hair, but I looked really pretty with curls. He had noticed in the parking lot the other day. When he dropped me off, I wanted to kiss him. Instead I jumped out of the car fast before anything could happen. Wyatt and I have always had this crazy physical chemistry. There is something intense and totally wrong about this guy. I think it will only be a matter of time until we go out again, because this guy knows what he wants and will go for it. Gotta admit it's a huge turn-on.

Ghost

The week started off strong. I'd never been happier since I got here, in almost a year that is. It all came to a crushing end, when my boss Len questioned me about the purpose of my being here. Right there I knew he wanted to challenge me, but it still felt like my three-week absence went unnoticed after all.

I am very aware that I haven't reached my full potential and I haven't done everything to make it happen. When people ask about my job, I obviously can't say I'm the person who speaks to every last individual and therefore can make things happen for them or through them. What kind of job description would that be. But it's the truth and if Len doesn't care for my qualities, then my position means nothing and can easily be replaced.

I have stopped reporting to Len a while ago, because it never occurred to him to protect me from Barry. Barry is one heck of a two-faced guy. His one side makes you wanna believe in Santa, the other one will destroy you with a sympathetic smile on the lips. You won't even notice you got screwed over by him. And when you fall to your death, he starts preparing for the day you come back from the dead. He'll be there with open arms treating you like a long lost puppy. That's Barry. If Len ain't protecting me from that, then all I can do is lay low. Not exactly what I got hired for.

Today has been rough. I have to constantly remind myself of who I am and what I am capable of. It doesn't matter that the Asian crew has my back. If I don't have Len's approval, I can't be sure of anything anymore. Nobody knows what I am going through on a daily basis. It's not the task in itself that is hard, it's getting no validation whatsoever for things that you can't even grasp.

I already know

Yes, I can take a hint. I may be stupid, but not a fool.

How can anyone be so composed.

Let me go and I will go further. Let me go and I will not return.

This is not a place for any of us to stay.

I'm not asking these questions, because I already know all the answers.

Without you, I don't know if I can keep going for another year.

Without you, there is no one left that I'm staying for.

It took me a while to realize how much I needed you.

You made it easier for me to stay.

When I leave, you'll make sure that I won't look back.

I may be stupid for letting you break my heart.

But I will get up fast, I always do.

Right out of the plane

Even though it turned out to be one of the most stressful and intense vacations, I had the time of my life in Asia. I ate everything I wanted, I bought everything I needed and more, I took lots of beautiful pictures, I got my hair and lashes done, I met family and friends, I visited Grandpa's grave, I went to the temple, I made wonderful new memories and also got some closure.

Right out of the plane, I went back to work and got an overwhelming welcome from a group of people. It was the right decision to take off for three weeks, it gave my superiors and colleagues a chance and enough time to miss me. :) But most importantly, it gave me a chance to work on myself, be aware of what I can do, be happy for once and come back stronger than before.

The real work begins after work. I have to do everything I can to distract myself from the isolation here. It is a struggle that I can never and should never get used to. I stopped talking to my coworkers about the struggle though, they never cared anyway.

Mickey and I kept in touch every other day during my vacation. Him and Darren even picked me up from the train station. I still couldn't help but feel like Mickey was starting to pull away a little. Yesterday he suggested we go on a trip on Labor Day, because I might not see much of him in the second half of the year. He'd be living the nomadic life like Winston, who would only be around every forth or fifth weekend.

There is no doubt in my mind that there is more to this than a platonic friendship. This even goes beyond the fun part, since we've been friends for almost a year now. It's just that we're both cowards. The risk of losing everything has never been higher. I can't put everything on the line for something that is so uncertain and will bring about so many consequences. I wish letting go wouldn't hurt at all.

Right now is all we ever gonna get

The week was stressful, but I got to see Mickey at work everyday. I really enjoyed hanging out for an entire week after we came back from our weekend trip. We didn't say goodbye to each other though. Tomorrow he'll be leaving for the rest of Europe and when he returns I'll already be gone.

I knew that this wasn't going anywhere. I knew that I was going to be left with absolutely nothing. And my heart was meant to be broken again. Yet I wouldn't have done it any differently, because these few days have been the happiest days I could have asked for.

This Friday turns out to be particularly difficult again, but there is no point in forcing things. Right now is all we ever gonna get. I am grateful that it ends on a high and will never get ugly. One more week to go, then I'll be on my way to Asia. Everything hurts a little less, when I think about leaving. I'm going home.

What do you mean

Last weekend Mickey and I went on a spontaneous trip together. We met Jerome Boateng, which was huge for a football fan like myself.

I didn't know that Mickey hadn't told the other guys. It caused an uproar within the Asian crew, since nobody had seen this coming. Me and Mickey on an overnight trip just the two of us. Honestly, I couldn't even tell if there was anything to be excited about. He was the perfect gentleman the entire time and didn't take advantage of any possible situations. Then again he wouldn't have suggested to stay for two days if he thought there was nothing there. We went for an evening walk arm in arm as heavy snow flakes were covering us. And when I borrowed his shoulder to sleep on our train ride back, he didn't mind at all. Today we learned that he'd be traveling across Europe in a few days, so he asked if I could meet him somewhere along the way. What does this even mean.

Sometimes I tell myself that Mickey is cute and all, but it'll pass as usual. Sometimes I feel sad, because I know he will get married at some point and I don't have a say in anything. I will laugh it off while my heart is broken. I still have to work with this guy. On this particular trip, I felt happy like I hadn't felt in years.

Guard up

Four members of the Asian crew returned this morning. After opening my presents, Darren, Mickey and I started bickering and kicking each others' asses. A month without them hadn't been so bad, nothing major had happened except for Nolan's firing. Then when the guys walked in again, I realized I felt safe. There are lots of nice people around, but the Asian crew has my back and we really need each other.

I am starting to find my place in this mess. A lot of distractions have disappeared. Nolan got himself hospitalized again, I can't put up with this guy's addiction and denial issues any longer. Percy is on another sick leave for mental instability, I just could not care less for him. Wesley still is the greatest and nicest guy ever, that's all there is to it. At some point I also need to get over the whole Mickey thing, it's not gonna happen. I have been hanging out with Killian and Wyatt recently, they both are ticking time bombs. Cory has finally given up on me and is a pain in the ass to Sid now.

I am not sure about Sid yet. One day we could be the new Sally & Henrietta, a better version that is. Sally and Henrietta have been ultimate work BFFs for years, they'd even share one hotel room on a business trip. People assumed that I would share with Melania, even though it wasn't true. I've never been a girls' girl, so it would be a surprise if Sid and I ever got there. We're still at the very beginning and nobody knows about tomorrow. I'm gonna sit back and let things take its course.

In my mind I am already vacationing in Shanghai enjoying a hectic program and amazing feasts. There is no place else I'd rather be.

Last September

In September my parents planned to come over to celebrate my Mom's birthday together. They ended up only staying for a day, as an old friend in the north suddenly passed away. It was the first time I ever attended a funeral, but I knew it wasn't going to remain the only one. We stayed at my Grandpa Martin's place during those days in the north and visited my Grandma Johanna at a care home. She didn't recognize any of us.

When we moved to Europe many years ago, we used to be completely on our own. We had no relatives, not many friends, not much money. It was just us and a possible ph.D. degree for my father. This elderly couple basically had been in our lives from Day 1. Martin and Johanna became my grandparents, when I was 3 years old. They were there for us, when my maternal grandparents couldn't and my paternal grandparents didn't care about us. As long as they didn't have a grandchild of their own, they treated me like their grandchild. Even after they had six real grandchildren and we rarely saw each other any more, I knew that I was the very first one. How do you beat that.

This week my Mom tells me that Grandpa Martin got diagnosed with liver cancer and rejected further treatment. He'll soon leave the hospital and go home, Mom will head over there for a few days. I probably won't see him again. I can look back at lots of amazing memories from over two decades, I learned so much from the both of them. I regret that we all didn't make more of an effort in recent years, but we did have a wonderful time last September. I'll always cherish that.

Anxiety

Last week I'd been wondering if new guy Lloyd was actually afraid of me. Seemed like I really was paranoid, because he joined us for lunch several times after that. Llyod is rather shy, but he has a surprisingly cute smile. He spent a couple of years in the UK and is one of the few people at the company who went to college. There is something sweet and nerdy about him, I really hope to find out if we have more in common. He will get sent on business trips a lot, I'm afraid I won't see much of him any more.

After meeting Camden in Bavaria two weeks ago, we hung out again in my hometown. We do have stuff in common and stuff to laugh about. It's easy with Camden, he is from the States and has a very bubbly personality. I think he wouldn't mind going out for real or something, but I'm scared. He isn't my usual type, there isn't this instant attraction or tension that I'm looking for.

There is more tension with some people at work, people that I see on a regular basis and can't date for obvious reasons. The physical chemistry that I have with Wyatt for example is mind blowing. Then there is Wesley. Smart, genuine, kind and totally my type. You gotta be head over heels for someone when you start seeing them, right? It's not a good sign if it's not there to begin with.

I can't explain why this whole Camden thing is freaking me out so much. Maybe I just don't want to waste any more time on dating guys that I'm not madly in love with. I don't know if I should give it more time before shutting things down and regretting them.

Is that you

Preston turned out to be the biggest mistake ever. It already felt wrong to begin with, now it feels like it could slowly ruin my life. Every time a co-worker says something out of the ordinary or behaves in a weird way, I get paranoid. Spencer used to light up whenever he saw me, Killian and I used to be kind of close. Today this new Lloyd guy suddenly changed his mind about grabbing lunch and I didn't quite get where that was coming from. Maybe Preston told Spencer about it. Or maybe Eliott got suspicious and blabbed. Eliott had been standing at my hotel room doorstep with Preston right before it happened (although Eliott like everyone else had been pretty wasted). It is paranoia for sure, however this Preston thing won't just go away as time passes. Even if years go by, it can still be a game changer in this company dramedy. I'll just have to keep my cool and not panic like I'm panicking right now.

Sometimes I don't even know who I am any more. I really should be in a good place, I mean I have everything I wanted a year ago. The bad days (or nights) are outweighing the good ones. Every time I'm on a high, I'll go back to my apartment and be on a low again. I can't revel in the high for a little bit longer, it has to be a low immediately. At this rate there are more bad hours in a day than good ones. I probably have this black aura which scares people off. I need to be happy again, otherwise I'll die in the countryside. This place is definitely not where I picture myself dying.

Fate

Friday nights are tough. This Friday was tough in particular, because the entire Asian crew went home for Lunar New Year. I still believe that Mickey does have feelings for me, just not enough to make a move and risk everything. And of course there is the girlfriend situation. Darren teases us a lot about it. Darren doesn't even know half of the story. Mickey and I hang on the phone for hours, when he is on business trips or when his roommates play cards without him. I'm scared of the day when Mickey announces his engagement. Since Darren has gotten married a couple of months ago, Mickey is the last guy standing. I don't want to lose him, but I obviously can't say anything. It's tough.

Nolan got himself hospitalized this week. I'm guessing he mixed pills with alcohol and poisoned himself by accident. He'd never admit it though. One time he dissolved pain killers in red wine and drank it right in front of me. This guy seriously lives in denial.

Percy is on sick leave due to mental instability. I'd already known before Killian walked around telling everyone about it. People can be cruel sometimes. Thank God I didn't get involved with Percy last year. Everything happens for a reason, even if I don't see it at the time.

It will get worse before it gets better

Preston looks like a member of a boyband and I'm not into that look. I never noticed him before. It was the most random thing ever and I didn't feel like it at all. Like my life wasn't complicated enough. Now I have to worry about people finding out. I bet they already have.

After spending the holidays by the Aegean Sea and in my old home England, I returned to Bavaria with lots of new energy and confidence. That lasted for a week.

Nolan got fired by the end of my first week back at work. I believe he is an alcoholic and addicted to pills. I'm not gonna listen to the same old shit over and over again. And maybe I want to believe for a minute that there is no evil out there and that he only has himself to blame. I'm not ready to get pulled down again, I can barely hang in there myself.

People that I used to be close to have put their guards up, while other people aren't who I thought they would be. At first I hoped it was only a little paranoia, but unlucky for me it wasn't just in my head. 

Killian and I used to talk or text all the time. Now I can never get ahold of him and when we do run into each other, he acts like a stranger. This usually means that you somehow managed to offend him. He will spread the news that you aren't trustworthy or something. The sad thing is that I actually do care about Killian. He is one out of two co-workers that I will miss if I were to leave this place. 

I have no idea what I'm doing exactly. I just know that I have a job to do. Losing Greg, Melania, Killian and Nolan all within a month is a good reminder that I'm not here to make friends. Or maybe it's not losing if you never had it to begin with. It gets harder to remain excited about work, when you have absolutely nobody there that you're looking forward to seeing. It's not like Mickey and Wes are around that much.

I thought I'd be happy (IV)

The truth is I haven't been happy for far too long. I've forgotten how to be happy and how to show it. I've always had difficulty expressing emotions. Over the years it got worse. Sometimes I act like a robot my colleagues say.

The last few years have been emotionally draining. I want to move past them like they never happened, but I need more time to adjust. You don't move past years of problems and suddenly be a totally different person.

After I've finally gotten over the Percy thing - it's still a little awkward for me - Cory is trying the exact same thing like Percy. He pretends to be into me, when he actually isn't. The only difference is he is way more dramatic and over-the-top than Percy, but they all are fake in the same way. What I hate is that they know how unhappy and vulnerable I am. People who still try to pull off this crap are plain mean and self-absorbed. Before this Percy crap happened I wasn't exactly happy, but I was fine. Why can't they just leave me alone.

Cory is even worse. He thinks he can increase his popularity by telling both Sid and me bullshit like "You're my favorite. I don't get why people appreciate the other girl more than you, you've done so much for all of us. Obviously I like you the most." Cory is the worst, because this might create tension between some of the girls at work.

Yesterday the Asian guys and I went shopping in Ingolstadt Village. Sometimes it feels like Mickey does like me a little, even though he has a gf. We all got separated in different stores several times, Mickey always made sure to find me again. On our ride home, Mickey was the only one who stayed awake to keep me company. After I dropped the guys off at the dorm, I went to get a cup of coffee in the kitchen. Mickey came looking for me. As the others started playing cards, Mickey ran after me to my car and gave me some Asian snacks.

I do get a little sad when someone mentions his gf. But I know we wouldn't work anyway. We might live together in the dorm next year. It would be crazy to endanger the thing that we got going. I don't even know for sure if there is anything there. It's probably nothing and not even worth mentioning.

Are you for real

I have known all along that people like Cory or Percy didn't give a crap about me. Once I accepted things how they really were, they didn't seem so bad anymore.

I am all for learning how to deal with and embrace these things. In the past I would've felt hurt and stupid. But honestly, people most likely weren't even trying to hurt or make me feel stupid on purpose. I've never been that important and definitely not worth the time or energy.

Cory thinks of himself as the real deal. All I see is a person who hands out compliments like candy on Halloween, makes promises he can't keep (for no apparent reason) and isn't that reliable as he claims to be. He thinks he is doing well and getting along with lots of people. Most importantly, he believes that he comes across as a no BS kind of guy. It's good to be on good terms with a Cory guy on a business level, he's everybody's darling and America's sweetheart (if only we were living in America). But it's all a waste of time on a personal level. He is the kind of friend that always suggests to do something, but never actually makes it. That's Cory. He's the real deal.

Percy knew he wasn't a good person. Somehow he created this whole other persona just for work purposes. People think he is one decent, boring and very black-and-white person. He goes to great lengths to be someone else on a daily basis, I can't even begin to understand how much determination and focus that requires. I think he is doing an excellent job at being someone else, but I haven't known him that long. If Brent and Killian haven't figured him out in five years, then he is better than I thought, and even more troubled.

Percy is a guy who has reached midlife crisis in his early 30s. He needs some sort of validation in terms of attention from a girl like me, because he isn't satisfied with how life has turned out. He also knows he doesn't have the guts to do anything about it. In order to keep the admiration going, every now and then he sends nice texts and promises he knows he can't keep. It's also good to be on good terms with a Percy guy on a business level. You know you can count on him at work, it's his business persona. And I'm sure he can be one hell of a friend to some people. Not to most people though. He doesn't specifically care for anyone, he only feels sorry for himself.

At the moment I hang out a lot with Killian who is very fun to be around, but a little paranoid and very vocal about pretty much everything. It's great to be on good terms with Killian, he actually comes close to being the real no BS deal and the crowds follow his lead. Then again if you have a disagreement with him, everyone will hear about it too and it can become very dramatic. Who am I kidding, who isn't dramatic in this place.

I am learning to pay less attention to the stuff which doesn't directly concern me or the company. I'm not the team shrink, I can't come to everybody's (or even the majority's) rescue. I have to start taking care of myself first. And convince all the Corys and Percys in a genuine and sincere way that they all are the real deal to me. Everybody wants to be the real deal? Everybody gets to be the real deal. Although I am not particularly happy, I'm trying not to lose my mind here. There are obviously new things to learn everyday and I'll make the most of it while being trapped here.

I thought I'd be happy (III)

How often can a heart break for the same reason. Too often. It mends a little and it breaks a little again.

I thought I'd be happy by now. And I would be if it weren't for Percy. I can't be happy about anything right now. All I can think of, is what I don't have.

He just can't leave me alone. He always gives this little speech and this little promise, then he takes it all back. I call his BS, but I'm still suffering. I've been going crazy, ever since I got involved with this craziness. Not a second of it was worth it.

I wanna go back in time and unknow everything Percy has said to me. He is the reason why I can't enjoy anything anymore. Why everything that I have doesn't seem to be enough anymore. It's not about Percy in particular as it is about the idea of falling for someone. Percy doesn't care about me one bit, he enjoys the attention at most (exactly as I said 5 months ago). So stop lying to yourself and start seeing him for who he really is.

I thought I'd be happy by now. But I'm just getting unhappier by the minute.

I thought I'd be happy (II)

I went through a lot to get where I am today. When I put all that behind, I was convinced I'd finally be happy. I thought I'd finally be able to live a little, be grateful for coming this far.

Today I received this month's salary and it didn't make me happy. In fact, it felt like I was growing unhappier with each passing day. I didn't go through so much trouble to give up fighting. I am fighting every day, because I want to deliver good work and get along with everybody. But it only keeps me distracted during the day. At home I realize once again it's all BS.

The only thing I still believe in is the big boss, as he appears to be someone who knows what he is doing. There is no one else that I can trust and depend on anymore. I'm on my own.

I thought I'd be happy

Mickey will be at home in China for a month. I haven't seen much of him lately, he's been working all across Europe. I thought I could live like that, but I can't.

Six months ago all that mattered to me was money and a job that I didn't hate. Friends I could make along the way. Shopping I could do online or in Munich or somewhere else. I thought I was going to figure it out, but I was wrong.

During my first month in Bavaria, I hung out with two people after work. I haven't met anyone else since then. Coworkers are not friends. Most of my coworkers are married with children and/or not interested in hanging out after work.

I can't picture myself marrying a local guy and staying in this place forever. I need to eat authentic Asian food regularly, I need to buy clothes that nobody else is wearing, I need to hang out with people who are like me, I need to reach either Frankfurt or Munich Airport within an hour.

At least Mickey knows for a fact that this small town life without any family or friends won't be forever. He has something to look forward to. I have absolutely nothing and nothing to be sure of.

All I have now is a decent income and a job I don't hate, exactly what I wished for. I thought I'd be happy, but I'm not.

Reckless

I have always been stupid and now I am also getting reckless. It's not enough to talk less in front of gossipy people. It is the quiet, trustworthy people that will betray you one day. I have to always keep that in mind.

When I moved to this place, I planned to keep a low profile and be as invisible as possible. Now I am one of the most high-profile and in-your-face people around. I know it will come back to bite me.

I am a troublemaker and not afraid to make things happen, though often too hastily. I will use the next few weeks to regroup and work on my patience. Thinking things through has always paid off in the past. People who want to take me down are watching out for my mistakes, if I'm not careful. I just have to stay quite calm and watch out for theirs too. Maybe I need to join a class, patience just isn't my strong suit. :D

Day and night

The construction works on our new company building are still ongoing. It looks like they didn't do anything (worth mentioning) in a week. While I was gone, parking had been prohibited in front of my apartment for construction works as well. I had to park somewhere down the street.

The first thing I did on this Saturday afternoon was grocery shopping to fill my empty fridge. In the parking lot I spotted Tracy's car. I cursed a little bit and then went straight inside without trying to hide from her. I mean I spent a week at a European exhibit. I spent day and night with a large group of coworkers, superiors, agency witches, business partners and clients from all of Europe. Day and night we were together like one big happy family. I saw members of my big family at breakfast, when they were still waking up for the day. I saw family before bedtime, when I could barely open my eyes anymore. I got to know things about them that I hadn't known before, not all of it was great stuff. So why would I freak out about some ridiculous smalltalk with Tracy? I had absolutely nothing to be nervous about after mingling at and handling an exhibition like that. Best preparation anyone could ever ask for to deal with all the Tracys out there.

At the beginning I was still thinking about Percy, but I restrained from contacting him on my part. As the week went on, I got to know some of the nicer business partners. A few of my favorite coworkers (Wesley, Cory, Greg and Wyatt) started showing up too, so I didn't care for Percy that much anymore. Percy texted that he was thinking about me, I didn't even respond to it. He asked if he did anything wrong. I could honestly tell him that everything was fine. I was fine again. Of course I don't know how I will feel when I see him Monday morning, but I am not too worried. The business trip really helped me focus on other things. I know I will be fine and maybe he will become a part in my life on some very platonic level. Isn't that nice.

Hit the road

I wouldn't say that I want to leave for the exhibit. I can't say that I'm ready to work 15 hours a day, 6 days straight, and leave Percy behind. I just know I have to do it no matter what and the timing couldn't be better.

I've been trying to go on dates, text and call other guys. Nothing has kept my mind off of him. The exhibit is my chance. The only reason why I am so focused on this entire thing, is because I am married to my job and don't have a life in the real world. I don't wanna curse or be mad at him. I just can't live like this anymore.

He may be my type, but there are plenty of great guys out there who could be my type as well. This is the typical big fish little pond scenario. He is this nice small town boy with a cute smile who can't really make up his mind, he never was nor will be the guy for me. I promised before I wouldn't settle. I now promise I won't settle for someone who doesn't like me as much as I like them. I'm not a small town girl, I'm not gonna stick around, I have to always remember that.

Broken hearted at work

Yesterday I told Percy that it'd been kinda hard for me, because I liked him. I was glad that I would be gone for the exhibit next week and then be fine again. He said he had no idea. I said he wasn't the only one who acted different at work.

How was I supposed to feel? There was this guy who told me he had feelings for me (for five months already), but we couldn't be together anyway. Five months ago I liked him too and then put it behind me. Today knowing what I know, it's even worse. Too painful.

Later in the evening we met for drinks. Nolan, Percy and I. We had a great time. It is difficult to be mad at Percy. I don't want to be mad at a coworker with whom I actually get along with. I will use the time at the exhibition to heal and feel good about myself again. At some point maybe I will develop the kind of friendship with Percy that I have with Nolan now. I'm not sure I can let this go quickly and that is okay. I'm not superhuman, I've been alone all this time and I'm hurting.

I can't do this

Percy still can't leave me alone, although he seems strong enough not to see me after work. He keeps sending flirtatious texts and he has this cute smile which would make anyone's heart melt. I need to let go, because he is taking me for granted and he can't make up his mind. One minute he says he is jealous if I go on dates, the next minute he says we need to text less. He can do whatever he wants, while I can't do anything. It really affects my mood. I know I don't wanna lose him as a friend too, but I can't go on like this. It's just too hard.

Back to June

We're back to June. My day started off good. I went to a meeting with the sales department in the afternoon. Afterwards all of us stood in the kitchen eating sandwiches, when I saw Percy and his guys chatting in the parking lot ready to head home. He looked cute and it really hurt seeing him. So we're back to June again, when I had first noticed the quiet redhead with those piercing green eyes.

We both agreed to keep talking and texting. And maybe I'm hoping for something to change his mind. Or maybe I hope having him in my life long enough will make me realize it isn't a good fit, but until then I don't have to not have him in my life. It's the stupidest thing ever, I know. I will get over it eventually, I always do.

On Thursday I'm going on a date with a funny, cute guy. I do look forward to it, although I can't quite stop thinking about Percy yet. Right now the most important thing to me is that our staff is happy. Our company needs him more than I do. He is doing the right thing for the both of us, it's everyone else's happiness before our own. Now I wish I'd never known he liked me all this time.

You won't see me fall apart

So Percy told me this morning that nothing could happen between us. It hurt a little, but there was a lot of relief. I mean it's better sooner than later, right? If it already hurts physically now, how will it feel later down the road. I can't be so vulnerable and exposed, particularly not because of someone like Percy. It's not worth the heartache, it's not worth compromising my position at work. Yesterday and all week I've been over the moon. Now it seems like it's been a bad fantasy. I guess someone is out there shielding me from the real pain. I just don't know what I am doing anymore. I'm gonna cry a little about my own stupidity and then move on like I always do.

A few months ago I said to Nolan that I couldn't picture myself living in the countryside for long, it would be way too lonely for me. When I wanna cry I listen to Sia's Elastic Heart. Why does my chest hurt so much, I don't understand it at all. I could say that I wished Percy had never approached me like that, however, it's not completely true. It felt different to dream a little again. The heart wants what it wants and now it will take more than two days to mend it. 

There is no such thing as the right thing

When Nolan came back from his July vacation with a new girlfriend, I thought my heart was broken. But I was just being overly dramatic. After two weeks it was same old, same old. One night in August, he was so drunk I gave him a ride to his hotel. We made out and he said that he loved me. I did not feel anything at the moment. So I went home. The next day he didn't remember what had happened. Now we're back to being friends, maybe even closer than we used to be. The tension is gone.

Work is stressing me out more than ever. I am trying to hold on to the staff members that want to leave us, while shaking off the threatening vibes I get from others. When I walk through the offices and halls, I try to talk to as many people as I can. It is difficult. When you focus on the big picture, you lose sight of the small details. Once my boss gives up on us and moves back to hometown, other bosses will jump right at my throat and crush me. Greg who is about to hand in his resignation, suggested I write a book. Who would even read shit like that. It sounds like a very bad daytime soap opera.

Adding to the drama, I have been responding to some advances from Percy. Back in May/June it'd felt like there was something there between us. A couple days later he told me he was about to become a father. I spent two days mending my broken heart realizing there was nothing there. It didn't take long. Now I guess I hadn't been imagining things after all. I have been alone and vulnerable ever since I got here, but I also know the Percy thing makes me a bad person.

And then there is Mickey. Recently he started traveling to our customers all across Europe, so we barely see each other any more. We have been talking over the phone for weeks. Mickey also has a girlfriend back home in Asia, so he would never take the first step. I believe it wouldn't work out with us anyway. Not that it could work out with Percy either. None of it would.

This remote Bavarian workplace is a messed up playground and it brings out the worst in people who used to be kind or stupid. My boss told me to never lose my carefree nature or grow up and stop doing the right thing. Well guess what, boss, I have to protect my own skin if you're not doing anything to protect it. I need a raise to put up with this crap for the long run.